Either you think the world isn’t safe, or you believe life is safe — and in that belief, you create experiences.
I don’t know why certain things happened to you in the past, and I don’t need to. I am here only to give you my presence and remind you: change is possible.
“I can’t be enough.”
What a declaration it is — a way to escape from our own power.
Most of us know we want to change our lives toward more peace, abundance, and fulfilment, yet something keeps us from living the life we truly desire.
The Thought That Kept Me Stuck
I have been dealing with this declaration for many years, yet I never questioned it: For whom? Yes, for whom do I think I am not enough?
Nowadays, I see my thoughts as protective layers that have shielded me since childhood. I survived tough times by beating myself emotionally. I felt too much — for feeling, for thinking, even hating myself for having thoughts at all. I feared moving forward and remained stuck on one question: How?
I consumed too much information, too many practical pieces of advice, and endless analysis. I read countless self-help books suggesting practical steps — yet I remained the same.
Thoughts That Made Me Hopeless
Here are a few thoughts that made me feel even more hopeless:
- I felt there was nothing to change about me.
2. Sometimes I felt I couldn’t change myself.
3. Let life bring me what it wants.
4. I don’t think it’s possible.
5. My environment drags me down and won’t let me change. Being in this environment, I could never change.
6. I am asking too much from myself.
With these thoughts, what could I become? The answer is obvious: STUCK.
Finding My Way
My desire to change myself was always strong, which is why I kept searching for my path.
I found my way through a book I recently read: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay.
Here are some insights I learned from this book:
1. Notice Your Thoughts
First, notice the thoughts that make you feel hopeless, doubtful, or never good enough — or the ones in the list above. If you see your own thoughts there, that’s great.
We don’t need to dig into where they came from. What matters is to become aware of them and catch them — not engage in endless bargaining like, “Why is this happening?”
2. Acknowledge Others’ Influence
If the thought is about other people, and it carries emotions like doubt, suspicion, or a threat to your individuality, just say: I see you.
Simply acknowledge it and become aware.
If your goal is to first change other people so that you feel better, kindly skip this for now.
We are here to create a safe space for ourselves and release the beliefs that shaped the life we are living today.
3. What Comes Next
After saying I see you, what comes next?
I want to gently remind you:
“What we think, we attract.”
If we believe our thoughts about other people, we will continue to create experiences like that and meet people like that.
I know what question is running through your mind:
Does this mean we don’t see the reality of people?
People who are selfish, who know how to take advantage of others, who are injustice, jealous, critical, judgmental, and so on?
Yes — I first started changing my thoughts about other people and the world, and magic began happening in my life.
Whatever emotions and attention we flow toward, it brings the exact same experience.
So, we are completely responsible for what we face. Sounds unbelievable, doesn’t it?
4. Reflection
Think about one aspect of your life — what you believe about yourself — and notice how time has brought people and situations that prove that belief.
Today’s work is simple: say
“I see you.”
See you again for the next part.